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I Corinthians 13
A marriage ceremony represents one of life's greatest commitments.
But it is also a declaration of love.
I wish to read to you what Paul wrote of love in a letter to the Corinthians.
I believe it is a true model of love and one I hope you pursue in your marriage.
Love is patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud.
Love is never haughty, selfish or rude.
Love does not demand its own way.
Love is not irritable or touchy.
Love does not hold grudges and will hardly notice when others do it wrong.
Love is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out.
If you love someone, you'll be loyal to them no matter what the cost.
You will always believe in them. Always expect the best in them and will always stand your ground in defending them.
[From] Gifts from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. Yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity, when the only continuity possible in life, as in love, is growth, in fluidity, in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.
The only real security is not owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back on what it was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but in living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now.
Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person,
With all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body
Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me,
With someone who thanks God for me,
With someone I feel blessed to hold
Because marriage means opportunity
To grow in love in friendship
Because marriage is a discipline
To be added to a list of achievements
Because marriages do not fail, people fail
When they enter into marriage
Expecting another to make them whole
Because, knowing this,
I promise myself to take full responsibility
For my spiritual, mental, and physical wholeness
I create me,
I take half of the responsibility for my marriage
Together we create our marriage
Because with this understanding
The possibilities are limitless.