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To My Friend
The Bride and Groom may dedicate this reading to one another.
It is called ï¿½To My Friendï¿½
I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.
I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what your are making of me. I love you because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy. You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign. You have done it by being yourself. Perhaps that is what being a friend means, after all.
through all time.
The Art of Marriage
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the art of marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say, ï¿½I love youï¿½ at least once each day. It is cultivating flexibility, understanding, and a sense of humor. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together and facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating your love for each other in many thoughtful ways. It is doing things for each other in the spirit of joy. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is not only marrying the right partner; it is being the right partner.
If in the morning when you awake
If the sun does not appear
I will be here
If in the dark we lose sight of love
Hold my hand and have no fear
I will be here
I will be here when you feel like being quiet
When you need to speak your mind I will listen
Through the winning, losing and trying weï¿½ll be together
And I will be here
If in the morning when you wake
If the future is unclear
I will be here
As sure as seasons were made for change
Our lifetimes were made for years
I will be here.
On Marriage, From 'The Prophet' by Kahil Ginran
'You were born together, and together you shall be evermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your day. But let there be spaces in your togetherness
And let the winds of the heaven dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love. Let it be rather a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each others cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another your bread but eat not from the dame loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each
one of you be alone, even as the strings of the lute are alone. though they quiver with the same music.
And stand together, but not too near together, for the pillars of the temple stand apart and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each others shadow'.